Get Your Career out of the Toilet!

People come to me every day feeling stuck and powerless, without the job they love. Every single time, I find that they are living a LIE. The TRUTH is you are trapped in your own thinking and indecision. I call this type of thinking “TOILET BOWL THINKING” because it can make your mind feel like it is spinning and spinning. It is draining and leads to crappy results…(Pun intended).

Here is how it starts…Take note if this sounds familiar. You are not happy in your current career and you have an idea, a vision for what you would like your work life to look like. GREAT! Then, you start to doubt yourself, negative thoughts creep in….You start thinking, re-thinking and over-thinking. You even share your idea and ask other people what they think…Soon your mind is noisily spinning with too many thoughts and you don’t know what to do or which direction to turn. You stop even before you get started, because of the LIE that it isn’t worth the risk or you are not worth the risk….or one hundred other LIES that your brain tells you to keep you comfortable, keep things the same and keep you in familiar, safe territory!

Here are some common “TOILET BOWL THINKING” examples:

“I want a new job, but first I need to lose weight, then I will be ready to put on my best suit and search for that job, or even start my own business. Right now I just don’t look or feel professional; maybe I should join the gym.” Joining the gym is a good idea, but not a direct and DeLiberate step towards a new job.

“If I had the perfect resume, then I could really launch my job search and get somewhere with my career, but my resume is not perfect and that is the first step of a job search. As a matter of fact, there are a couple of sections that I don’t know what to do with at all. One day I will have a perfect resume, but today is not that day.” This is more of a Default mode of operation, where you really don’t have to do anything, but then again you don’t get anything either.

“I would really like a promotion and if my boss really got how hard I worked, he would give me a raise or promotion, right? So, maybe my boss is a jerk or maybe I am not as good as I think I am. I guess there just aren’t any choices at all. I’m stuck.” This is such a great example of relying on assumptions instead of evidence to make a decision to blame someone else or yourself for your current career. Blaming is a great drain on your life and career. You can check out my thoughts about blame here….

There are lots of ways to get stuck! You have just gotten things out of order. We all have a vision and

DeAnne as a Plumber

dreams….but we start thinking backwards….As Larry Winget says, “What I see in my clients who are stuck in a career that they don’t love is ‘TOILET BOWL THINKING’“. Well, guess what?! I am the CAREER PLUMBER. There is nothing I love more than getting a person unstuck, out of their thinking, and moving forward toward TRUE CAREER HAPPINESS in a way that they stay unstuck. Is it scary? Sometimes. Is it worth it? Yes. But I have been through it myself and I will be there with you all the way.

I love helping people rethink, redefine and renew their own success.



Are You Letting Your Career Go Down the Blame Drain?

Are you waiting for the economy to improve? Guess what? It is time to let that one go! You can blame the economy if you want, but what a waste of breath. Think about it, the economy is for the most part out of your control. Yep, out of your control! One person, not even the President or Congress can turn the economy around in a matter of months or even a 4 year term, from puny to prosperous….Am I right?  So, are you going to wait for that? Let go of blaming the economy!! My guess is that it was just something to blame so that you don’t have to do something startlingly different in your life or professional search.

Yes, I said BLAME. Blame is the name of one of the biggest problems when it comes to getting into action and getting what you want out of your career. You blame the economy, your education, your previous employer, your lack of experience, having too much experience or even your mother. All the while, opportunities are passing by you as you sit in front of the computer uploading resume number 200 to a faceless job board or dreading the commute to work when it is still Sunday afternoon. Blaming is socially acceptable, even expected. It can become a habit, a crutch for not taking ownership for your actions. It is also a drain. Blame saps your energy, your outlook, your mood and your relationships, both personal and professional.

What if everything was perfect for what you want right now in life and work? You went to the right college, had the right family, had the right experiences and everything was perfect? That is a big mindset shift to honor your path, the bumps, the ups, the downs, the curves, the detours. So let’s start small, just one step…… if you took blame out of the equation, who would you have to be? What would you have to do? What could you say about what you want out of a job, without blame and settling? Is it scary? It could feel that way.  Without blame, you are the “R” word, yes, responsible.

Ooooh, responsible, yuck! “Responsible” and “responsibility” take a bad rap. When you hear these words, you think of “to-do” lists, one more thing to add to my already crowded schedule. You may even here a parental voice in your head asking you to be more responsible, possibly with an image of  an admonishing finger wagging at you.  Who wants that? Not me. Take the quote below into consideration.

“Responsibility begins with the willingness to be cause in the matter of one’s life. Ultimately, it is a context from which one chooses to live. Responsibility is not burden, fault, praise, blame, credit, shame or guilt. In responsibility, there is no evaluation of good or bad, right or wrong. There is simply what’s so, and your stand. Being responsible starts with the willingness to deal with a situation from the view of life that you are the generator of what you do, what you have and what you are. That is not the truth. It is a place to stand. No one can make you responsible, nor can you impose responsibility on another. It is a grace you give yourself – an empowering context that leaves you with a say in the matter of life.”

-Werner Erhard

See…. read it again with curiosity. What jumps out for you?  According to Erhard, responsibility can mean freedom, empowerment and having a say in your life and direction. And, if we get clear about who we are and are not responsible for the truth about you and what you want, it opens up a whole new world of possibilities for our lives. That is what I offer my clients– support in being true and empowered in their lives right where they are, right now, through Private Coaching For DeLiberate Success, the DeLiberate Yourself! Full-Day Workshop and my upcoming DeLiberate Success University.

I’ve got a question for you. Are you ready to take responsibility for your career in a way that makes you free, that leaves the Default lifestyle behind and DeLiberately moves you forward?

Schedule a free strategy session with me and ask me about my upcoming programs and workshops!

Don’t let your career go down the Blame Drain!

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